Is the superficial better than the real?

This idea has occurred to me before but

It's really digging hard in my brain right now

I don't have an answer and I don't think

I'll have one soon ...

The question is:

Is it better to be in relationship with someone

Who doesn't match your level of self-awareness but

At least you have a companion? 

OR!

Is it better to wait for someone

Who matches your level of self-awareness but

You'll be in solitude until then?

Is it better to wait for the real thing in solitude

Or

Is it better to have something superficial so that you at least have a companion?

Is one better than the other?

Is one more desirable than the other?

Is one more nurturing than the other?

Is one more real or superficial than the other?

I know the "superficial relationship" is far

More common than the "real relationship" and

That's why there are so many divorces

The question applies to friendships as well:
Is it better to have tons of superficial friendships
Because at least you'll have people to hangout with?
OR!
Is it better to have a few real friends though you won't
Always have someone to do things with?

I know which one I practice but I'm just not sure if

I'm choosing the loving action toward myself